Catherine Gurney WAKEFIELD 
- Born: 27 Jul 1793, Old Jewry MDX
- Baptised: 13 Dec 1819, St Stephen Ipswich SFK
- Marriage (1): Rev Charles Martin TORLESSE  on 7 Apr 1823 in St Helens Ipswich, SFK
- Died: 26 Apr 1873, Stoke By Nayland SFK aged 79
- Buried: Stoke By Nayland SFK
Catherine worked with Elizabeth Fry at Newgate prison and on the convict ships.
Charles Martin Torlesse
Marriage Date: 7 Apr 1823 (Monday)
Marriage Place: St Helens,Ipswich,Suffolk,England
Spouse: Catherine Gurney Wakefield
FHL Film Number: 952980
Monday last was married, the Rev Charles Martin Torlesse, of Trinity College Cambridge, to Catherine Gurney, eldest daughter of Edward Wakefield, Esq. of this town.
Ipswich Journal 12 April 1823, also The Examiner 13 April 1823 & Bury and Norwich Post 16 April 1823
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1. Catherine Gurney Wakefield: Aged 7, Cir 1800.
2. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Charles Martin Torlesse her husband, 16 Dec 1822, Woburn BDF.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 202 - 205 see Books Section.
FROM CATHERINE GURNEY TORLESSE. The following letter was written on a sheet of paper 15 x 9½, the single sheet, of days before the penny post. Woburn vicarage was the first home of Charles and Harriet Bridges, who had recently married and settled there.
"MY DEAR CHARLES,
. . . . . I write what I think may be agreeable to you, that is to say, to give you a little account of what passes in this happy abode. I must also try to answer your last, for which I have already thanked you. On Friday and Saturday I felt so well that I was able to get through a great deal of work, and by o'clock on Saturday had prepared everything for the dear children's and my own departure. (Note. Edward and Nina the children of Edward Gibbon Wakefield.) My father happened to be going to Wycombe, so that of course we started together. I had intended taking a chaise at Beaconsfield, but when we arrived there he chose that I should go on and spend the evening with him at Wycombe, which of course I did, though I was rather disappointed and also did not like having to come here on Sunday morning. My father treated me to reading Cobbett for an hour and half, after which I enjoyed myself very much by a good fire in my bedroom and read as in order the seventh chapter of Romans. The coaches passing all night prevented my sleeping, however, I rose pretty well, and arrived here at 9.30, coming on in a chaise by myself, and if it had not been from a consideration of employing improperly the horses and postillion, I should have enjoyed my ride, indeed I did so. Just before entering the chaise, this was presented to my mind, ' Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not to thine own understanding,' and occupied me pleasantly till I reached the Vicarage. Harriet was engaged with her Sunday School, so that I saw her for a few minutes only before Church.
"At 2 o'clock she sent me into the house her upper class of about seventeen great girls who occupied me till 3.30, and very much interested I was with them, indeed I can hardly express the interest I feel in Sunday School children ; perhaps it is too much, for it would almost amount to anxiety if I saw them constantly. We dined at 4 o'clock and went to church at 6 o'clock. Mr. B. preached an excellent sermon on that great passage, Is. 61, i. The hymn, too, of Watts : ' Come we that love the Lord,' struck me a great deal. At 10 o'clock I retired, and found again a nice fire, for which I really always feel thankful. The 8 Romans occupied me almost entirely till 11 o'clock, and very much I am led to rejoice that my eyes have been opened to see its beauties. I remember well the time when it was incomprehensible, now I seem to have found the pearl of great price in feeling `that there is therefore no condemnation to them who are in Jesus Christ, who walk not after the flesh but after the spirit,' in short, this chapter is so rich in mercy that I cannot easily say how much I feel it. I suppose you know that C. and H. B. read and look out references together for one hour every morning. I was admitted to-day and longed to have had you of our party . . . . however, you shall have some of the fruit of our labours in the references we found to the 24th and 25th verses. (Then follows a list of over twenty references.) After this H. and I talked of you for an hour, and then I accompanied her to the Green to visit some poor people. I hope to learn some useful lessons from her, but I do hope (at least, if I have anything to do with it) that you will not have such a large parish as this ; it seems to me an almost overpowering charge. Trouble is nothing, but amongst such numbers you must meet with much that is painful and much that is opposing. Harriet comes home and goes singing about the house gaily, indeed I have seldom seen anybody who appears to be happier. She has much to contribute to this in her circumstances, but after all it is more in her own mind, and some little perhaps from a good tone of physical power. "Now I shall tell you, as they are to be your model, a little of what strikes me about their establishment, and I quite think with your mother, that the outfitting for such a house as this, and done in this manner, must cost £500, and nothing short of this perhaps could ensure the comforts you have been accustomed to.
" Tuesday.This house, from its convenient size, sufficient and good furniture, etc., etc., presents every comfort, but how much more pleasure is derived to me from seeing the degree of sympathy existing between its master and mistress, first, about the best things, the most exalted objects, the most interesting pursuits, and secondly, from natural affection, which, though regulated by Christian principle, appears very strong on both sides. He is not original either in his conversation, exposition, or preaching, but still he is an interesting companion and a solid experimental teacher, and, as far as the experience of his mind and life go, seems to have reached to a high degree of spiritual mindedness and holiness. Now for answering your letter. Your liking the looking out references will I hope encourage me to cultivate it ; by-the-by, how I feel my extreme ignorance of the Bible before people versed in it, as C. and H. B., though there are many greater reasons for taking shame to myself on that head. I well remember, not so very long ago, when the hope of Heaven, the desire for its pure joys, its fountains of living water, its golden streets, had nothing to do with what I called my religion. Now, I cannot tell you that my seal is exactly put to the declaration of Paul : ' To me to live is Christ ; to die is gain,' and even if I feel it in a degree some-times, I soon fall back into carelessness and reluctance to leave a place which can bear no comparison with that for which it would be exchanged. This the world calls melancholy, but so far from it, I am convinced that this view in a complete sense would destroy all regret about anything here, and would fill the mind with those joyous anticipations which must effectually enlighten the heart and encourage in the way, though that way be strewn with difficulty or sorrow. " I shall get Joyce when I return to London, indeed I expected to have found it here, and wish I could have read it in this quiet, which is a new and very agreeable atmosphere to me. I like your account of the book very much. To-day I have not been out, but instead of it read about too pages of the life of Alexander Stuart, a Scotch minister. They speak highly of it. I am also looking over their village library, and adding to my list of books. Have you got the Leeds Catechism for your children ? It seems excellent.
" I hear from Harriet very good accounts of Maria's health, though her spirits have been affected by the death of Eliza Fennel. You know I believe the plan they have here of writing a kind of sermon on a text of scripture ; I shall copy one for you underneath, but shall finish my letter by telling you according to your wish, that Woburn has not had the effect I anticipated, for though it is very cold I do not think that the pain in my side is at all worse, and my cough is perhaps better, and I really feel very well. A large Burgundy pitch plaster on my side rather annoys me, first, because it is irritating, and secondly, because it is dirty ; however, all my complaints put together are nothing in the way of inconveniences. I almost envied a poor woman I saw yesterday who was suffering a great deal."
3. Letter to Catherine Gurney Torlesse nee Wakefield: From Rev John Thomas Nottidge, 26 Mar 1827.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 190 - 191 see Books Section.
MY DEAR CATHERINE,
" How much I feel having by my foolish blunder missed seeing you the other day, I cannot easily tell, nor how gladly we would put the horses to and indemnify ourselves this very day from disappointment. But the tremendous calls of daily engagement are such, and during the Confirmation even rather more pressing than usual, that I feel compelled once for all to say that I fear my reduced strength does not encourage the hope of my being able for the future to do anything beyond barely creeping through the most obvious of ministerial duties, even so as to keep off the very strongest and most unanswerable convictions of gross neglect. Added to this, almost every other concern in which I am engaged has, by gradually accumulating neglect and arrear, got into such a state of perplexity that if I had no ministerial engagements at all, it might not improbably take all my disposeable time, and attention, to get my house in order before I die. "To have a little conversation and prayer with you at this particular juncture would be inexpressibly pleasing to me. But I can no more appoint a day for it than a man who is escaping out of a house on fire, or a commander exposed to the perpetual attacks of a vigilant and restless enemy. All I can say is that so long as I keep myself from hurry, and the indulgence of that tendency to complain, which great weakness is frequently occasioning, I neither droop nor despond, but see hope all along my road, and brighter at the end of it, persuaded that with all my sense of weakness and weariness I shall yet be made more than Conqueror thro' Him that loved us. While I insert our united love, I cast up my heart to Him Who can and will do more for us than we can ask or think.
" I remain your faithful and affect. friend, "
JOHN THO. NOTTIDGE.
" I cannot spare the sermon at present but will send it as soon as I can. I am very glad you intend visiting the parish throughout, you will find that all that is effectually done will be through the instrumentality of personal conversation. Give
them texts of Scripture (not to learn by heart but to think of) on Xts Ministrations, on covenanting with Him, and a regular lecture at your schoolroom on the three parts of the Bapt. Coy. would afford the scheme for distributing the materials of personal conference. God be with your spirits."
4. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Charles Obins Torlesse her son, 24 Mar 1837, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 205 - 206 see Books Section.
" MY DEAREST BOY,
" I fear you will think us all so busy thinking of wedding preparations that we have no time to think of you, but this is by no means the case. Cousin is to be married (Susan Leeds to Richard Mosley) on the 3rd of April ; Mrs. Boggis is making a large wedding cake, of which you shall have a taste. We should like to have had you with us this Easter, but it seems hardly worth while to come such a long journey for such a short time. Perhaps papa may go to see you some time in April, but on the 15th he goes to Newton to preach the next day for uncle Bridges, who is going to Dublin. Your uncle Arthur (Wakefield) is here just now, he is just come from the Mediterranean. And now I must tell you a great piece of news. Aunt Priscilla was married last November to Mr. Henry Chapman, a cousin of ours and brother of Mrs. Godfreys ; he arrived in Calcutta about a month before her ; she writes in good spirits, and seems quite happy. She keeps on her teaching the heathen children, and appears as busy as possible. Your uncle William (Wakefield) has been in a very dangerous action in Spain, where 900 were killed and 1,500 wounded, but he was, through mercy, preserved. His regiment is mentioned as having behaved very gallantly. Pris. has been
very busy earning money to buy cousin's work box ; with presents and earnings she had 16 shillings. I lent her 7s., and she has bought the box, which is handsome, and furnished with scissors, etc. ; she is very much obliged to you for the 2s. 6d. The box is to be given on the wedding morning. Pris. has employed all her play hours in this work ; the rest are well. Henry improves in his lessons, and constantly talks of you, and wants to know when summer will come that you may come home. Papa and I were very glad that cousin went to see you, and that you had such a nice little journey with her. We were pleased with what we heard of you, but hope to hear of your being still more attentive. Cousin, too, told me that you wanted looking after as to your washing and clothes. Now you are quite old enough to mind these things of yourself, and you know I told you I should form an opinion of your well-doing very much from your attention to these matters, not because it is wicked to be dirty, but because cleanliness shows attention, and that is what you want in everything. You know I do not write to scold you, my dearest boy, but to encourage you to take more pains and to give pleasure to your parents, who think so anxiously about you and love you so much. Uncle Arthur talks of going to see you when he returns to London, which will be a great pleasure to you. We have had a great many fires near us, one at Higham, one at Langham, and a great many robberies, but we are to have two policemen from London to watch, hoping to keep away such bad people. Your sisters are going to write to you next week ; they and papa send you their best love. God bless you, my dearest boy, and keep you and make you his own.
" Your affectionate mother,
" C. G. TORLESSE.
" It keeps so very cold that I am afraid your chilblains will get worse."
5. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Priscilla Catherine Torlesse her daughter, Sunday night 1838, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 208 - 210 see Books Section.
" MY DEAREST CHILD,
"As I may not be able to write to you much at length in the morning, I begin to-night, though it is Sunday, but the occasion will I hope justify me. Your dear sister remains very
ill, she has been bled twice in the arm to-day, and had six leaches on her side. The rash which appeared at first on her skin, is now supposed to be on her lungs, and causes great difficulty of breathing, indeed it is very painful to witness the oppression under which she suffers, but she is extremely patient, makes no complaints, seldom asks for anything, and takes medicines, or submits to remedies without any hesitation, which is a great comfort as by this means anxiety and trouble are prevented. Though as to the event of her illness I must feel much solicitude, still I hope I shall submit perfectly. Our Father who is in Heaven orders all this much better than we can. I hope she has faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, knows that there is no other remedy for sin, no other hope of pardon, but this faith, this life-giving principle which cheers even sickness and makes death only the summons to joys without end. To-night the bell tolled, for two hours ; she said I wish the bell would leave off tolling.' I said ' Never mind the tolling of the bell, that is no bad sound for those who by death are summoned to be for ever with God.' She said `No it is not.' I added, You know Jesus said "In my Father's house are many mansions, I go to prepare a place for you, etc." " Yes,' she said, `I know, but you did not read that chapter to me the other day.' "And now I must tell you about the bell tolling. Mr. Durham was quite well at eight o'clock last night when he went to bed. A little before so Mrs. Durham went to bed, and before she had been to sleep she suddenly felt the clothes pulled off her and he had rolled out of bed. She jumped up and on finding he did not speak ran to her daughters. When she returned they lifted up his head, he breathed twice, and then no more. Mr. Liveing was sent for, but he had been dead some time. You may fancy a little what a tremendous shock this has been to them all. I have been down to-day and Papa since, but human sympathy can do little in such cases. God alone can heal or mitigate the wound He has seen fit to inflict. You will think I have written you a melancholy letter, but I am not in bad spirits. Should it please God to terminate Anna's illness by death, I hope she will only be removed to His own glorious presence, and though she is an affectionate child, I feel as if I mild not wish to retain her here, where there are so many
troubles. Sin is the only thing I mind. I would sooner follow my children to the grave than see them live in sin, and at all events Heaven must be much better than the best of conditions here. " Monday morning. Mr. Liveing was here before eight, he has cupped Anna in the back which she found very painful. I said to him 'What may I tell her sisters about her ?' He said 'You must say she is dangerously ill.' Perhaps dear child you will now have more idea of prayer than you have ever had. Naomi sat up with her and I went to bed for a little while. You may expect to hear from me on Wednesday morning at all events. Give my kind regards to Miss Smarts. Ask her permission to send this letter to cousin as I have no time to write to her. Papa's best love, much of the same from your very dear mother.
" C. G. TORLESSE."
6. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Priscilla Catherine Torlesse her daughter, 31 Mar 1838, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 207 - 208 see Books Section.
" MY DEAREST CHILD,
" I daresay you have been accusing me of being very shabby about writing to you, to which charge I plead guilty, though by this you must not suppose that you are not very, very often in my thoughts, but I have had some expectation of seeing you and this has been one reason why I have not written. If I can manage any way for your getting over, I intend you should pass a few days with us at Easter, or rather before Easter as I shall probably send for you on Thursday week. Does Mons. Martin give you a lesson on Easter Monday afternoon ? Now I must tell you a piece of news. Naomi (the nurse) is to be married on Easter Monday ; she has very much set her heart on seeing you at that time. Perhaps you can make her a table pincushion, something like mine, which I suppose would not take much time. You had better bring your
Tuscan bonnet and light frock, as your sisters much wish to go to church with her, if Papa has no objection. They are going to live in part of Mrs. Chisnall's house, and William is going to be our servant again, so you may expect to see your garden very neatly done up. Charley is indeed a naughty boy, we have not heard from him for three weeks ! I am afraid hockey, with which he seems very delighted, tempts him to neglect us a little. One of the ornaments of Naomi's house is to be your sampler framed and adorned at the bottom with a piece of hair from each of your heads. I have sent to Charley for a piece of his wig and you must send yours to Cousin on Monday evening, desiring that it may come by Parker on Tuesday morning. Henry and Catherine have had coughs, but I am thankful to say are not ill as many children here have been. Two children and the only two, of some people named Ellis have died of croup within a week of each other. We have already had more funerals than during the whole of last year. Yesterday afternoon I heard a tremendous shout in the hall, and found Pollock at the door with a hamper containing another white poodle puppy, such a beauty. It was smothered with embraces and terribly frightened, however, to-day it is more reconciled and eats comfortably when I go alone to feed it. I hope it will not meet the fate of its unfortunate brother. I shall enclose a note for your aunt which perhaps Miss Smart will allow you to leave, if you walk that way or send to the post when her letters go. All unite in very much love to you. God bless you my child and make you His own.
"Your most affectionate mother "
C. G. T.
" My very kind regards to the Miss Smarts."
7. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Susan Mosley nee Leeds, 1838.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 206 - 207 see Books Section.
"MY DEAREST SUSAN,
" Nothing but my unworthiness makes me shrink as to undertaking the sponsorship for your dear child. I dare not
promise to do what I wish because I do not watch over or pray for my own children as I ought or as I desire but, God helping me, I will endeavour to pray for yours and watch over her whilst life and reason last. You do so for one of mine I know. It is a blessed office I believe and one intended to call out some of our best sympathies. Can you defer the Baptism till the 2nd or 3rd of March. I do not like proxies, and if spared, my own child's birthday will call me to Ipswich. I suffer much from her absence but I know more and more that it is best for her and I do not repine. God indeed weighs and measures every grain of sorrow or joy and why should we wish anything to be different. I hope I do desire nothing but more grace in myself and others and the coming of Christ's Kingdom with his own glorious appearance. Lent is coming which is a blessed time for reflecting on the sacrifice made for us. May it be blessed to us both.
" God bless you, dear Susan, "
Your very affect.
" C. G. T."
8. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Charles Obins Torlesse her son at Putney College, 19 Nov 1840, Ipswich.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 210 - 211 see Books Section.
" MY VERY DEAR BOY, "
How do you do, and how have you fared all the week ? My heart often asks these sort of questions and longs to peep at you, to see you in your sports where I wish you to be amongst the most active, to listen to your examinations where I should hope to hear you ranked amongst the forward ones, to take my seat beside you to Chapel and know that you were listening to your kind spiritual teacher, for whom I regularly pray that success may be given him with you and your companions ; then I might wish to accompany you to the Library on Sunday afternoons, where I should hope to perceive you among the attentive hearers, listening and asking questions, last of all I should like to follow you to your bedroom and know what your private prayers are. There pray for your dear father as a Minister of God's Holy word and Sacraments, there pray for your beloved mother, that much grace may be vouchsafed to help her infirmities, and enable her to perform some arduous duties, then think of your dear sisters and little brother, and for
yourself, that your young heart may be given to God, remembering some of your precious and now sainted sister's last words `They that seek me early shall find me.' "Louisa, Susan and I came here yesterday to pay uncle a little visit. This morning they walked with Mr. Mosley to see the new docks. I have Priscilla in full charge of everything at home, and am anxious to know how this essai at management turns out. She was very anxious that I should try her and wished me to stay a fortnight, but we return to-morrow. Miss Archer is at Newton, where I believe she has no easy task to manage John Henry, who was here yesterday and looking quite well. They asked a great deal about you, and every letter from aunt Priscilla mentions you. Everybody congratulates me on your being so happily placed. You will be sorry to hear that Mr. Barrow's family has been thrown into great trouble by scarlet fever. The whole school was dispersed, reassembled and dispersed a second time. A young lady who was staying there died in the house, and they don't know when they will get the boys together again. One great pleasure I anticipate on going home tomorrow, will be your letter which I suppose arrived to-day, or will do so to-morrow. The Dickens are to drink tea with us, Mordaunt is extremely grown, looks well, and is quite a dandy in appearance. I shall leave this open till tomorrow, I may have some home news to communicate, but for the present, goodnight. My beloved boy.
" Your most affectionate mother,
" C. G. TORLESSE."
9. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Rev Richard Mosley, Jan 1841.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 211 - 212 see Books Section.
" MY DEAR MR. MOSLEY,
" Tho' I do not know the pang of parting with an infant child, I know the many sweet endearments which even a very young child brings with it. I know too, the inexpressible feeling of seeing a child draw its last breath, but these are the scenes of love and hope and fears which belong to us as mortals, but I can tell you, as you doubtless feel with me, the
blessed feeling of knowing that you have a redeemed Saint before the Throne, member of the Church Triumphant. Yours scarcely having been an heir of sorrow, and now blessed for ever. I certainly did feel a great deal of pleasure about this baby for you both. Dear Susan has sympathised with me about almost everything, now she will know still better how to do so, and perhaps this trial might be sent to you as a Minister that you might know better how to sympathise with your people. "My constant thoughts are with you, how glad I am that the dear girls are well.
Kindest love to them and Susan.
"Yours affectionately, "
C. G. TORLESSE.
10. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Charles Obins Torlesse her son enroute to NZ, 24 May 1841, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 212 - 213 see Books Section.
" Priscilla is playing and singing Little Bo-Peep to Francis, who is sitting on her knee in her night-shift, as she is just come in to wish good-night. Francis sings and says more, more.' They have all been working in the garden this evening, as there are more weeds than the boy can clear away. The garden, however, looks pretty well, and we have plenty of asparagus and spinach. Miss Archer arrived at Aberdeen this day week, she had a very quick passage, but I have not heard from her since she got to Ellon, where she is to reside, 15 miles from Aberdeen. She spent a day here three days before she went to London, and was much out of spirits at leaving. Your uncle Edward is gone to America, so I can hear no private news, but the New Zealand Journal gives a letter from your uncle William, dated December 12th, 1840, which seems to speak of things going on pretty well at Port Nicholson ; by the report, too, of the persons who had been to examine the Tomnaki country, it seems that the natives are preparing for the English, even going so far as to build houses upon speculation for the Pakekas.' I have, however, no answer to a letter I wrote your uncle last August, but it will not do to think of the time. Yesterday was the fifth Sunday since you sailed, fancy pictures you to me Page 213
till I get miserable, and try and forget you, but no, my dear boy, this plan never answers, there is no forgetting you or the cruel distance which separates us. My only refuge is prayer, and this soothes me into submission, and faith bids me see you happy in serving God, and being useful to your fellow creatures. I then go on to hope that you are progressing in your profession, and fitting yourself for independence by diligence and good conduct. Everybody says you have a good field put before you, and my sanguine hopes keep me up, but you, too, have suffered dearest boy ; many a pang I know you have suffered. May this your first trial have led you to a Throne of grace, to Him who will hear the feeblest prayer, who will not break the bruised reed nor quench the smoking flax. Stoke has lost its charm for me, and if it pleases God to point out the way I am ready to leave it for New Zealand. "Last week we had the fair, and on Friday gave tea bread and butter, buns and pies, to 125 children who did not go to the fair. This was in the park where they all enjoyed themselves, playing till past 8 o'clock. One evening last week Priscy walked to Nayland with Papa, they were all well. Mrs. Harrold was buried on Wednesday, and Mr. Harrold talks of going to live with Mr. H. Liveing, and of selling Horkesley
" Good-night precious boy, "
Your dear mother, "
C. G. TORLESSE."
11. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Charles Obins Torlesse her son in Nelson NZ, 25 Jun 1842, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 213 - 215 see Books Section.
"MY DEAREST BOY', "Since the 15th, on which day a packet of letters went to you by the Olympus,' cousin Susan has been staying here, and has written you a letter. Since she married she has not stayed so long with us before, but it is a farewell visit, as they are going very soon to Rotherham, near Sheffield in Yorkshire, to which living Mr. Mosley has lately been presented by Lord Effingham. I shall miss cousin very much, she has been a valuable friend to me for many years, and even now I shall
hope to see her sometimes if our lives are spared. She has two dear little girls whom you would like very much. " Priscilla is going to stay with her schoolfellow, Ellen Faulkner, and Susan is at Felixstowe. We should seem a small party did not Louisa's spirits and movements create some variety. We employ the mornings industriously, and this makes the holidays more pleasant. Louisa is improved much in French and music. I hope Henry will go after the holidays to Mr. Fennel's, where Edward Liveing has been since Christmas. Mr. F. is a cousin of papa's, and takes to or 12 little boys, and we are told has much skill in managing them. Henry much wants a companion, and when George Liveing goes away, as he will after the holidays, he will feel it still more, besides he is not doing enough in the way of lessons. Kate is a dear, tractable child, and gives very little trouble, and Francis is the pet of the house, and the people in the village say she is the best of the lot.' Yesterday I received three New Zealand Gazettes, the 5th, 8th, and 12th of January, judge of my vexation at receiving no letters, when I tell you that the newspaper states that a ship, the ' Look-in,' had just arrived from Nelson Haven and spoke well of the progress making in the colony. Oh, my dear boy, never grieve me by allowing any ship to go away without a letter. All my seven children left to me here seem nothing in comparison with yourself, but if I could have regular communication with you I should not feel so desolate. " Mr. Mangles, one of the directors has put papa on the Church Committee for New Zealand, and we are trying to collect some funds, but they will be small. I comfort myself now that you have a clergyman settled amongst you. Oh, that my beloved boy may have grace to listen to the voice of God, and early give himself to His service. I wonder whether you have`begun to build your church. Three evenings ago I walked to Nayland to see Mr. Liveing, who has been very ill from a large swelling at the back of his neck, indeed, he has been obliged to have a surgeon from Nayland, but he is getting better. Mrs. Liveing has another little girl, to be named Ellen, about a fortnight old. Fanny Liveing looked rather tired with nursing her father and attending to the little one, as Miss Stratford, Mary, and Sarah Ann are away. To please
Henry we went a little way up the river in the new boat. Henry rows much better than you would expect, it is a nice safe deep boat ; Henry also bathes with George, and likes it extremely, he is much more manly than he was. And now, dearest boy, goodbye, God bless and keep you,
"Your very affectionate mother,
" C. G. TORLESSE."
12. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Charles Obins Torlesse her son in NZ, 25 Mar 1843, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Ref Bygone Days Pages 215 - 217 see Books Section.
" MY DEAREST BOY, "
I am told that Mrs. Young employed a great part of every day in writing to her son, and so one of her great sufferings must now be the missing of this occupation. My pleasure, dear boy, in writing to you is certainly much diminished by my not knowing whether you have received any of our letters. Certainly the pang of separation by death could hardly be greater, for I can hardly realise your being alive and my not knowing anything about you, but time is passing away, and we are quickly hastening to a rest from all trouble and cessation from all anxieties. Our dear friend Mr. Liveing has entered upon that eternal state. When I last wrote to you he was very ill, and on Friday, the 10th March, he was released from extreme suffering. His complaint was an uncommon one and called pharingitis, or inflammation in the swallow ; his agonies were extreme from a sensation of suffocation, but three days before his death his throat was better, and hopes were entertained of his life, though he himself did not expect to recover. He sunk at last from the breaking of a blood vessel in the bowels. During the first part of his illness he was in miserable spirits, and could not perceive the salvation of the Gospel as applicable to himself; but it pleased God to remove all his doubts and fears, and he died in perfect peace. Papa had the privilege of administering the Sacrament to him just before he died, and almost the last words he said were, I am thankful,' in reference to the words used in that service in giving the wine. Though he had led such an exemplary and useful life, he felt no comfort in reflecting on his good deeds.
Every man who is enlightened by the Spirit of God, and views his life compared with the requirements of God, finds that he has come very short of what he ought to be, and must flee for safety to a better righteousness than his own. So our dear friend, he expressed his firm reliance on the merits of Christ and his utter rejection of any other source of comfort. Papa preached his funeral sermon at Nayland last Sunday afternoon to a crowded congregation of attentive weeping people ; his text was from Acts : John fulfilled his course He spoke of John as a remarkable person in his birth, life, and death, which was sudden, and according to our judgment undesirable, for he was cut off in the prime of life, in the midst of usefulness, but still he fulfilled his course. So we have all a course to fulfill. God has given us all talents to use, work to do, and you, beloved one, may enquire whether you are fulfilling your course and doing God's will. I remember Mr. Liveing's talking the last night of your being at Stoke. You walked to the door with him, and he said it would always give him pleasure to hear of your doing well ; you returned to the dining room and said, The words of such a man were enough to make anybody work.' He is gone and our loss is immense. You would think that the father of the country was removed, his exertions in his profession were so great and so successful, his character so large, his principles so great and honourable. I feel that I have suffered a great loss, and my children a greater. But God's will must be submitted to, and it is our wisdom as well as our duty to be silent. Dear Fanny sinks daily ; she is so unlike herself, that she has taken but little notice of her father's death. Mrs. Liveing talks of living in the house where Mrs. Cook lived at Thurton Street, so we shall have the comfort of having them in our parish. Mr. Charles and Mr. Wm. Liveing have been down here, and we have shared with them the anxiety of intense watching while life lasted, and since, the sorrow of no common character, for such a loss. "Last week I heard from your aunt Chapman, who had had a letter from uncle Arthur dated 29th August, in which your name was mentioned, but this is the only intimation we have about you. I have blessed God indeed for allowing me to hear of the arrival of the Bishop. Louisa says in her last letter, I
am very glad to hear the Bishop is at Nelson, now perhaps dear Charles will have an opportunity of hearing God's holy word.' Yes, dear boy, I can think with intense delight of your listening to the word of life, and earnestly pray that you may have grace to follow in the ways of holiness. Through mercy we are all well at this time ; Susan's eyes remain finely. Louie and Henry are very happy at school. God bless you my ever beloved one, your very affectionate mother.
" C. G. TORLESSE."
13. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, Aug 1843.
Bygone Days Pages 219 - 220. See Books section
" MY DEAREST CHILD, "
Your later more comfortable letter was welcome to me this morning. I gather from it, however, that you need more control over your feelings, remember that he who conquers himself is a greater hero than he who can head an army, and that this is the battle which as Christians we are daily called upon to fight You want patience with yourself too, as well as with others, because your health gives you trials from which many are free. In this Susan is a bright example ; she has suffered more or less for fourteen years, and
many is the struggle which she has had, and though it has been a great trial to see her suffer, I have reason to believe that it has been much blessed in subjecting her will to that of God. The Apostle tells us, Cor. 2, 10, 5, to bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. If you had no trials at school you would have no discipline, which you acknowledged to me was so good for you, so take courage and endeavour to bear everything cheerfully.
" Your very affect.,
" C. G. T."
14. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Susan Mosley, 9 Jan 1850, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Ref Bygone Days Page 217 see Books Section.
" MY DEAREST S.,"
Your short report this morning cheered us about dear Susie. Functionary and organic complaints are very different, and I do trust that it may please God to spare her life, still more do I pray for benefit to her soul. Tho' she may not be able to express herself, you cannot doubt that so many prayers will not be answered, tho' we cannot tell exactly in what way. Nehemiah made bold to be God's remembrancer, but dares not to be His councillor or prescriber. He remits the shaping of His answer to the greatness of His mercy. You do not know how much mercy may be in store for her, in being withdrawn from the world. For her life I dare not pray, but make bold to intercede earnestly for her soul's welfare, and for sustaining grace to be granted to you and her father, that your faith fail not or your strength forsake you. I trust that Mrs. Hadwen and Susan may shortly render you some assistance with the other children, if not with her, and that I may hear full particulars from them. When we were taken into Covenant with God He was bound to attend to our cry to sustain our faltering steps. When the world would have had you dearest S., you were snatched away and made to know the Truth, even almost against your will, I am sure I was. How rich the portion of such will only be fully known in the Ages of Eternity.
" Your very affect.,
" C. G. T."
15. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, Sat 23 Oct 1852.
Bygone Days Page 218. See Books section
"DEAREST CHICKEY, "
I am glad you were able to make out Henry's letters, which I hardly expected. Long ere this I hope the 'Minerva' is getting into the Trades, which make ships go along merrily. Miss Dyer has sent most excellent letters home in five months, they had built all their farm premises, and the house was to be finished in a fortnight. They had 8 cows, calves in proportion, pigs, poultry, etc. She says fuschias grow into large trees, and that they make excellent pies and puddings of the berries. Mrs. Macnamara came on Tuesday with Oona and stays till Monday. Nora and Emily, of course, have been very happy, but I hope their great pleasure will not make them idle. They have lessons of Mr. Hardacre and get on nicely with him. Emily is collecting seeds for Henry, chiefly forest trees, and Oona's chief amusement is playing with Zillah and the kittens. I am very pleased to hear that you can make such good use of your fingers, as nearly to accomplish a flannel petticoat in an evening. You will make work scarce. Who should arrive just as we had finished tea last Saturday but aunt Bridges, she was only 36 hours in the house as she left again on Monday morning, but we gobbled her up and enjoyed her company immensely,' as Henry would say. She looks a good deal older, but seems in good health and tolerable spirits, having received much comfort from Charles' state of mind, though his sufferings were terrible to witness. I hope your parcel will contain the supply for all your wants, and that you will receive it on Monday.
" Your loving Mother, "C. G. T. "
I have a small thermometer hanging in my room which Henry left for you, and which I know you will like to watch for his sake as well as for remarking the heat and the cold."
16. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 4 Nov 1852, Stoke.
Bygone Days Page 218 - 219. See Books section
"MY DEAREST CHILD, "My first intention after reading your letter this morning, was to write you a long and comforting letter, but
just as I had taken my pen in my hand an alarm was given saying that Martin and his son were killed in King's well in Polstead Street. This proved too true. They had gone halfway down the well and were repairing the brickwork, when owing to the late heavy rains, the earth gave way above them, and they are now buried under an immense weight of bricks. Many men are at work, but there is no probability of the bodies being got out to-night. You may fancy what a scene there is with the two Mrs. Martins, Mrs. Boggins the daughter, and the eldest son who has just arrived from London. To be cut off so suddenly, and I fear, in such an unprepared state, is indeed awful. Mrs. Martin herself, I hope, is a Christian woman, who has sought God before this day of bitter trouble was appointed, therefore am I persuaded that she will not be deserted, because He has promised to be with His people, even though He may see fit to afflict them. "Tassie, I believe, is going to the Duke's (Wellington) funeral, and for that purpose will stay at Mrs. Macnamara's. She is going to make us all presents on her 21st birthday. She talked of giving you a small writing case like Emily's ; would you like that or anything else better ? Tell me in your next. The cat, kittens, dog, etc., are quite well, and we still have a few flowers in the vases, but are surrounded by floods.
"God bless you my precious child."
F. H. T.
17. Letter from Catherine G Torlesse: to Edward Liveing Jnr, 15 Jan 1853, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Liveing Archive IMG 2383 - 2384
My dear Edward
You will be glad to hear that two days ago I received nice letters from Charles  dated August 2 and 5 - He was delighted at the idea of Henry's  arrival and says he has every prospect of finding good employment for him which is very satisfactory - he speaks encouragingly of his own prospects and was very much heartened with the collection which I had made for his church - The future? of his domestic life is most happy and gives me firm assurance that Henry will associate with none but gentleman. . . . . . . Lesterton? Sadler has been here today to tell us that he has obtained his father & mothers consent to go and that he hopes to leave in March - you will be glad to hear that Susan is mending tho slowly - I do not now expect to see much progress . . . . .
Always affectionately yours
Stoke January 15, 1853
18. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 4 Mar 1853.
Bygone Days Pages 221 - 222 See Books section
" MY VERY DEAR CHILD,
. . . . this morning I received a most kind note from Mrs. Montgomery (Ann Cook's mistress) asking if you might pay her a little visit in London. This note I shall send to Miss Cahusac, and I dare say she will arrange for your going on some day when you have not a Master. She speaks so highly of Ann and her sisters that I was quite pleased. She says that little Miss Fanny is held up as a model in her nursery, so, of course, something will be expected of you. Mr. Montgomery is a clergyman well known in London, and preaches at Percy Chapel. Tassie is going to Miss Cahusac's as a boarder ; of course, she will have a room to herself and you may only see her at meals or of an evening, but she says she shall walk with you sometimes. Much of her time, I suppose, will be occupied in singing, but she also intends to read steadily. "Susan was here yesterday, looking remarkably well ; she is beginning to read and draw again, and is in excellent spirits, quite like her former self, but I do not know when she will come home, as Mr. Fenn objects to her leaving Nayland till the weather is warmer. " Priscilla remains at Wanstead till next week. Uncle and
aunt C. had engaged to take her to Exeter Hall last Wednesday Even: to hear the Creation, which I hope she enjoyed. " The sick are all better, except George Chisnall, whose disease is very serious. Miss Greenup was so kind as to give me a sovereign for the poor, so that I am to-day making the fourth copper of soup which they much enjoy this cold weather. Letters have arrived from Sydney this week, dated October. Minnie relates one capital story as follows : Mrs. L . . . ., the Governor's Lady, was looking at some silk dresses in a shop at Melbourne. She pointed out one which she admired, but said to the shopkeeper that it 'was too dear for her.' A gold digger, who stoodby, said presently, 'Cut me off a dress of that silk for my missis, and cut one for that 'ere woman, for she seems to like it.' To this the shopkeeper replied in a whisper, Did you know that she is the Governor's Lady?' ` Never mind,' said the man, 'she seems to like the colour, let her have it.' Miss G. told this with her excellent Yorkshire accent, and made us all laugh. I saw plenty of snowdrops this morning in Mrs. Hazle's garden and wish that I could send some to Miss Cahusac. The snow, I hope, is going away by degrees, but it has been dismal. The aneroid has proved most correct in foretelling the arrival of snow by dropping extremely. Last Saturday and Sunday I was very uneasy at the disappearance of Pussy and thought you would be vexed at her death. All my calling on Sunday was in vain, but on Monday morning Songar found her in the loft and she is now at my elbow at every meal. I often feed her for your sake.
"Now, dearest, farewell, may God bless and guide you every day and every hour of your life,
"Your loving mother,
" C. G. T."
19. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 27 Oct 1853.
Bygone Days Pages 220 - 221 See Books section
" DEAREST FANNY, "
I delighted myself all yesterday with thinking of the pleasure which you would have in seeing dear aunt and this was some compensation to me for her departure, which nevertheless we felt very much. It has indeed been a gleam of bright sun-shine to us all. " Dear Susan continues very nicely and sketches almost every day, as she wishes to catch some autumn tints which are fast fading away. Sometimes she draws in the pony chaise, and sometimes on Mrs. Murring's donkey, for she cannot now walk far, still I feel some hope that she may go on improving if it pleases God. Priscilla will, I suppose, go to Weymouth in about a month, and I shall be glad she should do so, for she certainly looks very poorly. I suppose you have heard that papa was going to-day to the funeral of his unhappy cousin (Rachael Jackson) in Lambeth, and hopes to return with Tassy tomorrow night. You may fancy that Susan's company in such nice health and spirits seems to give us almost new life. I hope we shall show our gratitude by renewed love and obedience. Share this feeling with us, dear child, it may give fresh vigour to your prayers and your actions. I am glad you proceed better with your bedroom companion. I can also promise you, though I am not with you and can hardly tell what your daily routine is, that you will find her more and more agreeable, if you are forbearing and making it your daily and hourly study to please and do her good. You may quite rely on our correspondence
being kept quite secret. I hate very much anything like a profession of religion, so that I should carefully forbear mentioning anything of the sort in my children, though, at the same time, I do very much like to know what is passing in their hearts. Besides, we are commanded and encouraged as to the exercise of intercessory prayer, and by your confiding in me fully I may be able to speak to God for you, and feel sure that He will fan the spark of grace into a flame some day, and why ? Because He who first gave the spark, will not leave His own work imperfect. Then, again, ' He will not break the broken reed or quench the smoking flax.' To this tender care and guidance I constantly commend you, dear child.
" Your very loving mother,
" C. G. T."
20. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 19 Apr 1854, Stoke.
Bygone Days Page 224 - 225 See Books section
" MY DEAREST CHILD, "
I shall long to know who your new companions are, you say they will not affect you much.' Do not think this, for you must be more or less influenced by those with whom you have daily intercourse. There is, however, one simple rule. Be kind and obliging to all, but only make friends of those who love and fear God. Emily has a Christian mother who would rejoice in knowing that her daughter was making progress in the best way. Think of this, pray to be directed aright and God may enable you to be useful to one who is deprived of a father and has an excellent mother deeply anxious about her. Papa says you may have drawing lessons if Miss C. thinks you have the time for them. This I know you will like only I am afraid of your applying too much. I liked your description of
the church, Mr. Allom was the architect. I forgot before to tell you that P. and I went to the Catholic Apostolic Church, it cost as it is £40,000 but is not nearly completed. As a building it is exquisite but sadly Popish in many parts, and I have no doubt that the observances and preaching greatly tend to put outward things in the place of spiritual, and thus obscure the beauty and freeness of the Gospel. Now dear child farewell, may God bless and guide you.
"Your Loving Mother,
" C. G. T."
21. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 18 May 1854, Wanstead ESS.
Bygone Days Page 222 - 223. See Books section
I found a long letter from Emily, the best part of her packet was a little mat which Arthur had made within the week for me. Emily only threaded his needle and made the knots, he fastened every row off himself, there are 30 rows in it. I
shall put it in my treasure drawer, the child who would persevere in doing such a thing as that, must have something in him. . . . On Sunday, I was woefully stupid from weariness, but I was glad to be present with Harry Chapman at his first Communion and hope that the whole occasion of that and his Confirmation may be blessed to him. . . . On Monday, I went to Knightsbridge, where I found your grandpapa in bed with erysipelas, he was certainly very ill ; to-day I have a worse account of him, and never expect to see him again ; though he was a very old man and I quite expected his removal, I feel the parting very much, he has always been an affectionate parent and only too indulgent to me when I was young."
22. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 9 Jun 1854, Stoke.
Bygone Days Page 223 - 224 See Books section
" MY DARLING CHILD, "
I do not like to let the week pass away as you do without writing, but perhaps I shall be brief to-day as Mr. M. the school inspector is here and I feel rather muddled from being in the schoolroom. I hope he is satisfied, but he has such a cool unfeeling way of examining, so entirely like a matter of system merely, that I cannot tell what his opinion may be, perhaps I may discover something at dinner. Poor M. A. Boggis is glad enough that this day is over as far as the examination is concerned. We are quite satisfied with what she has done, tho' perhaps Mr. M. finds fault as he looks very much to apparatus, etc. When you come home Miss Greenup is going to give the Fenns, Curreys, and first class in Merton's school a treat in our garden which I hope you will enjoy. Mr. M. again kissed M. J. who is the very plague of the school. It is a sad encouragement to naughty children.
" I have had capital accounts from Susan and forward her letter that you may see how comfortable she is. I have been very busy, which is a good cure for dulness, nevertheless I miss her extremely and if it pleases God I shall be glad of your company, a very good compensation, but I believe she will not
stay long, she talks of returning with Susey Mosley early in July. Priscilla has a project of going by an excursion train and taking you to the exhibition, but I am doubtful whether she will be able to carry it out. It would make your day of coming home a very fatiguing one, but you have not yet told us on what day you hope to come home and perhaps I set my mind on it too much. The Liveings are to begin with their new governess on the 15th, rather unfortunate for you as they will not have holidays for some time. P. and I went to Colchester yesterday and bought a new dinner set and some forks, changing away the old coffee pot, as the new one is to be given on the 21st. Mr. Currey showed me the plate consisting of a round teapot, a sugar basin, an upright coffee pot and cream jug, very solid and handsome but not showy.
The inscription is : "From the members of the Stoke and Melford Union in remembrance of the active services of Rev. G. Torlesse, for 25 years as Honorary Treasurer.
"Your very affectionate, "
C. G. T.
" Kind love to Miss Cahusac and Emily.
"I had a better account from Emily on Monday."
23. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 10 Aug 1855, Stoke.
Bygone Days Page 225 See Books section
" MY DEAREST FANNY,
". . . yesterday I was delighted at a visit from the Rev. John Smith who used to be dear Henry's private tutor at Brighton. He was staying at Dedham and came over to enquire after him. I remembered the great affection with which Henry had named him and had often asked me to enquire about Mr. Smith if I could. He asked after Henry with the affection of a brother and really his visit was a treat, he does seem to be such a nice person. He is now one of the Masters at Harrow
" Your very affect.
" C. G. T."
24. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 17 Aug 1855, Stoke.
Bygone Days Pages 225 - 226 See Books section
" MY DEAREST FANNY, "
I would not write till after yesterday, because I thought you would like to have some account of the school fête which went off well, the day being very fine. The tables were nicely set out in Mrs. Munning's barn, which was decorated with the addition of the French and English flags. 176 children gobbled up bread and butter, and excellent plum cake and tea, all better than usual as they have a new housekeeper. Plenty
of play succeeded, races, etc., till 8.20, but at 8 I was obliged to leave, being quite beat, not only from standing and walking about for 5 hours, but also from mental feelings. None of my own dear ones, who used to take such pleasure in these things, being there, I could not help feeling it all, though I hope my sorrows were well concealed, for I endeavoured to take an active part for others, which is always a good secondary means for alleviating grief. The children in whom you take particular interest always receive much attention from me. I have visited the infant school regularly twice a week, and intend to do so, for, as Emily Vince had her holiday at Ipswich, she goes on keeping school, whilst the others are gleaning. She is much improved and I am now satisfied that her children are doing well. Charlotte and her little boy, born last week, are also well. I have had little Charlotte here several times, and find her a very good child. Priscilla arrived at Rybourne on Tuesday but seems to have left Rotherham with great regret as she had become attached to the children, who begged her to stay . .
" Baby (E. T. Liveing) grows sweetly and really takes a great deal of notice, considering that he is not yet 7 weeks old.
"Your very affectionate,
" C. G. T."
25. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 19 Sep 1855.
Bygone Days Pages 226 - 227 See Books section
" MY DEAREST FANNY, "
After I last wrote we were kept in a good deal of excitement about Sebastopol, and our musical party which all went off nicely. Mrs. G. and Mrs. K. were a little jealous of Miss Pickersgill but these things always happen, I believe where unbroken harmony should exist. Papa praised the supper, and this was credit to me though I had really devoted more time and thought to it than perhaps I ought to have done. On Friday I drank tea at Thurton Street. Mr. Calverley had just arrived uninvited and unexpected ; he announced himself by whistling in the garden . . . Anna is making a nice chalk drawing of the baby, who engrosses Tassie so completely that
nobody sees much of her. They declare that she spends all the morning in dressing him and all the evening in undressing him. I know that after dinner she lies down with him for an hour, so there is not much time for her friends. On Monday I went in Mr. P's omnibus to Bentley for Mr. Cheetham, and yesterday Papa took him to Colchester on his way back to Cambridge. He seems to be a man of a decidedly prayerful and devoted mind, with great industry and determination of character. He will not give any answer about going to Rangiora, till an answer is received from Charles, as to many matters relating to the church, but he seems to have a real missionary spirit, and I do trust that he may be sent to them in the fulness of the blessing of the Gospel of Peace. He is superintendent of a most interesting Sunday School at Cambridge, containing 1,000 children. Forty undergraduates are the teachers. Among these, this year there is a man likely to be Senior Classic, last year one teacher was a high Wrangler. It is very delightful to see men of talent devoting themselves in this way. On Friday at 2 o'clock they all visit the different districts, and in this way every house in which resides a Sunday School child is visited once a week. The school is divided into four grades. The first learn a good deal, the last nothing, by heart. Mr. Cheetham fixes the lessons for the whole school, and on Sunday afternoon, after the teachers leave to go to church at 4 o'clock, he gives an address to the whole school. He must be a man of some power to manage all this, but he is extremely modest in speaking of himself. " Susan had a most happy letter from Priscilla this morning ; she seems to be quite interested in helping Georgie with her children and in other ways, and wishes to stay longer. "
Your very affectionate
"C. G. T."
26. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 22 Dec 1855.
Bygone Days Pages 227 - 228 See Books section
" Joy, joy, ten letters from Rangiora within 3 days. The dutiful, affectionate, serious tone of them is perfectly delightful, and I am led to wonder at God's mercy to one, so unworthy as myself, in granting me such a favour. Of course I send them
first to Priscilla but you shall have some of them soon ; in the meanwhile I give you the salient points. " . . . Eliza Harrington was living with Mrs. Townsend ; Tom went to Rangiora but soon left them, at which I am not surprised. " . . . They write capitally about the war. Besides the Patriotic Fund the ladies of Canterbury were likely to raise £1000 for the sick, Miss Nightingale's Fund, etc. Are they not plucky people ? Henry says a man ought to sell the shirt off his back sooner than not give to it. I like to see their hearty English spirit. The Harringtons and Frosts were all going to settle at Rangiora, for which I am very glad, as they are such nice people. The men were going to build the church and old Mrs. H. will be a comfort wherever she goes. Papa and I went to Colchester yesterday to have a photograph made for Charles, but I cannot tell you yet whether it will do. The man and his wife go about in a very smart house on wheels, parlour, kitchen, bed-room and all ; so it is rather like a Trucker, however, Papa had a fancy for it and I hope it will answer. I took a great liking to the artist because he reminded me of Charley . . .
"P. . . will send you on a letter of Henry's which please return to me as I shall like to look at it again.
"Yours very affect.
" C. G. T."
27. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Henry her son in NZ, Aug 1858.
Bygone Days Pages 228 - 230 See Books section
To HENRY T.
How shall I tell you, my precious Henry, of my delight at beholding your photograph, which arrived two days ago. It was a present to Fanny, and she is delighted with it; it is a gift to me. However your own modesty may shrink from it, I suppose Eliza will not object to my saying that you are much better looking than I ever expected you would be. Fanny exclaimed, 'People will say we have got a handsome brother !' The beard and moustache, which even on your dear face I consider odious, alter your mouth and chin, of course, but the eyes, forehead, and expression are what they were, only improved, partly, I suppose, owing to the great improvement in your health since the days of your sufferings in England.
" 15th Aug. This has been a red-letter day in my life, for this morning arrived your letters to your father and to me, dated April 21st and 24th, announcing your having been able to give up your work as shepherd, intending by God's grace to devote yourself to the Ministry of the Word. How shall I bless God enough, how shall I show my gratitude and love, how are my desires about to be granted, how are my prayers about to be answered ? In my last letters to you and Priscilla, I wrote particularly on the subject of your preparation for Orders ; though it has long been on my mind I was more especially drawn to it by your letter to C. Holland. In Psalm 77, 19, it says of God, ' Thy way is in the sea, and Thy path in the great waters, and Thy footsteps are not known.' So, indeed, God has worked wonderfully for you ; at one time things seemed tolerably smooth for your going to College here, and it was thought by some that this would lead to your taking Orders, though I well remember myself your saying that you did not feel either the inclination or the power for such an office. No, you were to be led through troubled waters that God might see what was in your heart, and thereby, I trust, fitted to be a workman who needed not to be ashamed, a Pastor for such a flock as has been gathered round you at Rangiora. Beloved, I bid you God-speed, I pray daily and hourly to teach you by His Holy Spirit so that you may be able to teach others. " I have longed to send a man from England, and have tried to do so, but in many respects you and your wife may be better suited ; you will be satisfied with moderation as to income, and the inconveniences as to colonial life do not deter, and will be more cheerfully borne by you.
". . . . your father is, I think, much pleased, for he mentions the subject to everybody. Cousin Hornidge was here, and deeply sympathised with us, and we have received aunt Bridges' assurances of rejoicings with us, as well as Charles Holland. ". . . . My head is full of plans for getting you books, and conjectures as to how you will commence your work. I desire not to be too confident for you or for myself, only while we tremble about ourselves are we safe, because then we lean on Almighty strength. From Charles Holland I am sure you
will receive excellent advice, and I believe you will have plenty of books by the next ship. "Charles Holland preached two excellent sermons to-day, especially the one in the afternoon. In due season ye shall reap if ye faint not.' I trust many felt interested. I cannot believe such a sermon has been preached in vain. . . .
Your very loving mother,
" C. G. T."
28. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, Oct 1864, Stoke.
Bygone Days Pages 230 - 231 See Books section
". Mrs. Parsons (in New Zealand) is a remarkable instance of struggling against difficulties ; she was the first mover in getting the church built, and now, I have no doubt, she will have a parsonage. Then, from the first, I have seen in her the faith which strengthens the soul, and nerves the limbs when otherwise they would be powerless. On Sunday morning came a note saying Mr. Bryan was ill in bed, so papa went there in the afternoon, of which I was glad, as he was nervous about the christening ; however, all has been beautifully quiet, though the church was extremely full. Mr. S. read the service so that it was well heard. The babies were very quiet,
and he preached a fair sermon. When he was entering the names afterwards he said, Funny little dears, one face was nearly smothered in a bonnet, nice little pigs, aren't they ?' How would the parents have liked this ? Still, the same man, I believe, had taken great pleasure in reading the beautiful service which always brings tears to my eyes, remembering my own nine dear children who were brought to that same font, I trust in such faith as ensured a blessing. Some have entered on the Inheritance' then secured, and the rest, I hope, are pressing into the Kingdom.
" Dear love to Amy,
"Your most loving mother,
"C. G. T."
29. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 1865, Stoke.
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Relating to Mr. Storr's illness.
. . . Your report, dearest F., is indeed distressing to one's natural feelings, I am thankful that you are able to help Amy. Her mother nursed my favourite brother when he appeared to be in the greatest danger, and I am glad that one belonging to me should do the slightest thing for Amy ; more than this I have a sincere esteem and affection for Mr. Storr himself, and I most earnestly pray that this rod of correction may bring him fully into the Bonds of the Covenant. Give my affectionate love to Mr. Storr if he is able to receive a message, and tell him that I earnestly pray God to give him faith and peace in believing.'
30. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 1867.
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"My visit to Hinton does indeed bear reflection ; it is instructive and comforting to be with a person so stepping into heaven as uncle appears to be ; his bodily life appears to be like a flickering flame, but his soul is indeed raised above earth ; dear aunt and the babe (Susan H. Brown) are constantly before my eyes."
31. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, 1868.
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" Sunday was a miserable day, but yesterday a great change took place, and like an old crumpled butterfly I got into the sun and unfolded my limbs by calling to see Mrs. K. and others. The malignant fever at Terling has alarmed the authorities, so to-morrow Sir Charles, Mr. Fenn, and Mr. Royston are going to inspect drains, etc. . . . At Terling the sewerage has gone into the wells, 110 cases in a population of 900 ten servants at Lord Raleigh's. . . . We have got Liddon's Bampton Lectures, do you think we shall ever pick such a tough bone ?"
32. Catherine G Wakefield: Letter to Frances Harriet her daughter, Wed 13 Apr 1870.
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"You will not be surprised dearest F. to learn that another fit has terminated the life of our kind friend Mr. Fenn. He was
seized at one o'clock this morning but lived till five, tho' without speaking. I remember with comfort that he said `his illness had been the greatest blessing of his life, this Mr. Fenn told me the day he came into the study. The loss is a public one, and for us he was not only a skilful medical adviser but a warm and valuable friend. Edward told me the day before yesterday that he had suffered much pain for several days. . . . " The people here seem all astir this morning and many will feel the loss, though Edward is very deservedly popular, still he is young. . . ."
33. Catherine Gurney Wakefield: Letter to Susan Leeds (copy), 17 Feb 1872, Stoke By Nayland SFK.
Liveing Archive Torlesse Folder
Original letter lent by Mrs Mosely per Fanny Torlesse when home from New Zealand May 13/90
Stoke Feb 17 1872.
My dearest Susan
I hasten to tell you that Edward paid £1.5.0 for the Safre [?] Before he left Stoke \endash Tassie, Eddie, Willy and the two girls are at the Tor [?] for a
In these few lines (above) I have copied the handwriting E.L.
[few?] weeks as they have let their house well.
It is quite a treat for me to have her, and her presence encouraged Fanny to leave home for a fortnight because Tassie (Frances Jane Torlesse wife of Edward Liveing \endash called "Tassie" from her birth in Tasmania, and to distinguish from her younger cousin Frances Harriet torlesse called Fanny above. Sometimes when young they were called "great Fanny" and little "Fanny" EL) is like a daughter to me and the girls are charming companions to Katey \endash last night she sat up with little Mary Brown who has had a desperate attack
of croup \endash her father, mother, and Dr were up all the previous night but the child is better this morning. The two elder ones have had the complaint more mildly \endash they are all most delicate little creatures but Anna is a good mother and he is perfect as a father \endash Harriet (nee Torlesse, Mrs Bridges widow of Rev C. B.) was 75 last Tuesday, but she visits and does a good deal \endash Fanny is going to stay at Richmond where I understand Edward (Mosely) has an invitation for Easter. They are nice friends for him \endash Charlotte Liveing seems to have taken Walter Holland and Edward (they were the undergraduates at Cambridge were my mother and sisters were then residing E.L.) under her protection \endash it is a good thing for young men to have such a safe house as Mrs Liveing's
to go to when they like.
I wish I could help you with a curate but I know too well that trouble to offer you much hope.
We have smallpox in the villages around and one case close to us. (There was a general epidemic of smallpox at this time throughout the kingdom owing to long neglect and carelessness in vaccination \endash i.e. in ascertaining that those vaccinated really had cowpox E.L. - my children were vaccinated at the "Zoo" then) this seems like a part of the commotion which seems to shake the world.
Blessed are those whose feet are on the rock, even the rock of ages.
My dear love to you all
Yours fondly loving
(Catherine Gurney Torlesse)
(this letter was addressed to Mr Torlesse's first cousin Mrs Moseley née Susan Leeds. She has endorsed it "Dear Cath's last letter after a correspondence of nearly 40 years !")
Catherine married Rev Charles Martin TORLESSE  [MRIN: 535], son of John TORLESSE  and Anna Maria ROBINSON , on 7 Apr 1823 in St Helens Ipswich, SFK. (Rev Charles Martin TORLESSE  was born on 29 May 1795 in St George Bloomsbury, died on 12 Jul 1881 in Stoke By Nayland SFK and was buried on 16 Jul 1881 in Stoke By Nayland SFK.)